jackson Wrote:ham Wrote:I always say: be careful...today's friend, tomorrow's foe who won't hesitate to use whatever he knows about you to ridicule, hurt or attack you.
That's not just an Internet lesson -- that's a life lesson.
One of the most difficult things to do when slapped is to not slap back. One of the most difficult things to do when slapping back is to slap only as hard as one was slapped and not pull out the ammunition one gathered in confidence.
Human nature is ugly. The Internet makes it uglier possibly because whatever human face it has "in person" -- whatever inhibitions we have when we can see the damage we do -- all but disappears when we're just slappping grocery lists of monikers and pseudonyms.
Cynicism, I have learned, is a good thing. Dogs will eat dogs. Humans will eat dogs. Humans will eat humans. Gestures resembling kindness are often perfumed self-interest.
But a cup of coffee -- there's something I still believe in. If it's a good cup of coffee. With cream. Especially in the morning.
I was banned from a small, unknown free site in 2008 (?).
The reason probably is I criticized the 'guru' of the site's admin, a mentally challenged midget who'd periodically send distress PM asking for money he was strapped for, couldn't afford the domain, had failed his CPA exam for the third time, hoped to start working soon etc...
What is singular is that many members of the small site had complimented me and a moderator had asked me publicly to write a book on the subject...
Of course the public excuse was the usual degreeinfo bullcrap, but this time I happened to be a MURDERER and a TERRORIST, too.
Once I was banned, all the people who had asked me to write books; all the people who had always agreed with me; all the people I had wasted time supporting because they were feeling down...all sixfigures neurosurgeons and mountbanks suddenly rallied behind the 'funny' peanut running the show...which raises doubts about how credible 50yo neurosurgeons (or stock brokers or whichever tale they spun that time ) might be to stand to attention when some bum snaps at them...
What if I had divulged sensitive or private details during the buddying stage?
After all they always agreed with me and wanted me to write a book, right?
I witnessed very ugly outcomes of these 'online friendships' going down the drain...lifestyles, income, physical appearance, jobs, families...all was dragged into a never ending mud fest.
No, thanks.